Wendy is one extraordinary child and as her mother, I would like to take a moment and brag a bit. I am so proud of all she has accomplished. At only 9 weeks she was holding her head up, which is amazing for a preemie. At 4 months old, she is working on learning to sit up! And I am extremely proud of the fact that she does not need physical therapy. I'm also excited at how well she is doing with occupational therapy. Wendy's astounding progress is partly due to how much Zed and I work with her and the rest, I give credit to God. He has blessed me with a miracle baby!
Some of my parenting ideas you may not agree with. Like the fact that Wendy is spoiled beyond belief and Zed and I do not let her cry- we immediately pick her up. I also don't believe in self soothing. My baby girl will be rocked to sleep every night until she is big enough to tell me "mommy, I'm not a baby, I don't want to be rocked to sleep". I don't mind when people have different opinions on how to raise a child. Some people think I'm terrible because I don't believe beauty pageants are a bad thing and some people think I'm horrible because I do not believe in co-sleeping. But on subjects of raising my baby, and the methods I choose, we will have to agree to disagree.
Even though I don't always "go by the book" in my choices of parenting Wendy, no one could ever call me a bad mother. I adore that child and cherish her. I am more dedicated to her and love her more than I could have ever dreamed. I think she's going to do great things and touch a lot of lives. She's already touched mine.
Its funny, I didn't believe in co-sleeping, but we do it! Things change! And the parent choices you are talking about are not ones that define a good/bad mom. I do let Dylan cry it out (depending on the situation) but I know my son and every child is different. I can't say I'll parent my next child the same exact way, he will be a different child. Keep doing what you are doing!
ReplyDeleteI'm sure Wendy will never sleep with us because we are afraid her tubes will get tangled :/ And I just don't have the heart to let her cry, especially when I think about her crying and being alone in the hospital for 10 weeks. Even though Zed and I visited every day, you can only sit in a hospital so long, so I am making up my cuddle time now!
ReplyDeleteI know this was posted in Feb, however I do have to say Co-sleeping with a tubie baby.... very very difficult!!! Wyatt insisted on it from 9 months until about 22 months... I got very little sleep.
ReplyDeleteEvery baby is an original. Parenting skills change with every baby. I had 3 and parented each different. I now raise my granddaughter and parent her even different than I did my 3. If someone questions your parenting skills, tell them to go fly a kite in a lightening storm... Maybe they can make electricity. (That is not meant to go kill themselves, just means that some choose to fly a kite in lightning storms... We call him an inventors, father of electricity... He did things different than most men, didn't make it wrong, just made him amazing)
ReplyDeleteYOU are amazing... Co-sleeping or non co-sleeping.
Hope this all makes sense. I kinda have a mind of my own.